epoch...
Celebrating An Epoch of Time...
From the Great Depression through the first man on the moon, to church socials, barn dances, home made ice cream. From Eisenhower to Watergate to Monica Lewinsky, to the rise of Wall Street, the shooting of John Lennon, the fall of the Berlin Wall, we are the ones who lived it first. We danced to Glenn Miller, watched them put a man on the moon, went to Woodstock, saw U-2 in concert, bought the first color televisions, built forts out of boxes and had sock fights, walked to school in the snow, made cookies from scratch with grandma.
Each and every one of us make history every day. We are the living embodiment of an epoch of time in a nation and in the world. We need to give these memories, these pieces of our history , of who we are, to our young people.
That is why this blog was born. Whatever your age, race or income bracket, if you can relate to what I am saying, I invite you to write us and share the experiences of your life.
It can be a paragraph, or it can be a page. It can be a beautiful moment from your past – a sight, a smell, a touch that only lasted seconds, your finest hour, your fondest memory. Whatever it is, it is valuable.
This is a place to spread the wealth of our experience, with the hope that the young people who read this will ingest the integrity with which it is given and want to know more.
Let’s tell them...
Celebrating an Epoch of Time...
The other day I had the rare opportunity to have a conversation with my oldest friend's daughter. She is in her early twenties, eager to begin, in earnest, the adventure of life. You remember it well, I'm sure. We all do.
We talked about her goals and aspirations, and what it was to be living as a member of her generation. She said she had very few acquaintances, and fewer friends. Her peers were guarded, often rude, hiding behind a facade of who they thought they were supposed to be...it takes a long time to make any real connections or form a bond of trust.
She said she didn't have anyone she was dating because she couldn't find a guy with enough integrity to be her friend, first. She was sick of the "cell phone" mentality -- relationships relegated to the occasional coffee, happy hour or party. Face-to-face conversations were frequently interrupted because someone opted to take a phone call while she just sat there, feeling awkward, as if she were the one intruding.
No real time spent. No real interaction. No forging the kind of relationship that her mother and I have shared for over 30 years. There is a feeling of being scattered and alone, not being encouraged to think, not knowing what to believe about themselves, God or country. She observed that they were all hungry for something more substantial -- herself, included.
As I got in the car to leave that evening, I realized for the first time that we, as a people -- as a nation -- are reaching the end of an epoch of time -- a time when we made it a point to see our friends, when we knew our neighbors and enjoyed their company, when we sent cards on birthdays and holidays, when we sat on the porch in the early evening with the television off, listening, as our parents regaled us with the stories of their youth.
Is it possible that, at their core, people have not really changed so much, but are just responding to the demands of an increasingly impersonal, selfish and carelessly managed culture?
If that is so, then it has been a progressive state of affairs, affecting all of us, regardless of our sex, our race, our cultural mores or our income bracket. Many of us over 40 have observed the progression and allowed it to suck us up over the course of our own lives.
But we, the GenX-ers, the Baby Boomers, the WWII generations, have something our younger generations do not. A great majority of us were raised with both parents, in a home that carried the light of "family," with all the joy and messiness the term implies. We were taught by our families to be honest and love one another, have integrity, be proud of our work, respect authority (unless it was out of bounds), cultivate and value relationships, use our education, and to worship a living and eternal God.
Somehow, amidst the clutter of an increasingly demanding society, we have not taken proper advantage of the opportunity to pass these things on to those who have come after us.
They cannot carry forward what they do not know. They cannot know it unless we either experience it with them, or tell them. If we will not be the lighthouse, generations to come will not find the shore. And something vital and irreplaceable will be lost...the heart of a nation.
In this respect, may I submit that the children are not yet our future. We are.
We are the backbone of this country. And we have a voice. It's about time we used it to give our children and grandchildren an inheritance that is more than material. Let's give them something they can truly build a life with.
I thank all of you in advance for your input, and welcome your insights, humor and philosophies. And to the young who find us here, pass us on. Happy reading.
[Please note, this is not a forum for political opinions. Politically-charged entries and/or those with foul language, etc. will be deleted.]
Thursday, January 22, 2015
Polka
"What?" says my mother. It is clear by her tone that she knows my drama queen is in the room. "Why don't find something to do?" she asks, candidly.
I looked up at her and said nothing. It was early in the afternoon. The windows were open above the sink and the little drum-shaped floor fan hummed. My mother was ironing. The smell of scorched spray starch filled the room.
Entirely put upon, I slid off the chair, dragged myself over to iron and fold the last three or four hand-embroidered cotton pillowcases.
"Hey, it's after one! My music is on!" My mother stepped quickly to the old white radio on top of the refrigerator and turned the dial. The sound of polka music flooded my ears. The cicadas stopped. I smiled.
"Why do you listen to that music every Sunday?" I asked. "It's the music from the neighborhoods where I grew up." she replied. "They play an hour of Polish music, then an hour of Croatian, then Irish, then bluegrass. All these neighborhoods still exist in St. Louis, so on Sunday I guess they play their music because the people enjoy it."
She unplugged the iron and sat it on the counter, then pulled at the metal lever on the ironing board and folded it for storage. It was almost as tall as she was. I had to be the one to take it to the back room.
"Do you know how to dance?" she asked. I said, "Yeah, what kind?" "Can you polka?"
Suddenly, she sprang into position, her back straight, like a soldier. She put her arms out in a circle, her left hand above her head, like a ballerina. "Come here. I'll show you." Delighted, I stepped up and grabbed her hands.
"Now, stand up straight. Grab my left hand and put your hand on my waist. I'm going to lead, so you just follow my steps." I was eagerly but impatiently trying to mimic her steps.
"Don't look down," she admonished, "Look at me."
One, two three, one two three, kind of like a waltz, but faster and faster, until we were twirling and skipping around the room. Accordion music lifted us off the ground. We dipped and giggled, bumping into the table and the chairs, and the stove, and the refrigerator. Beads of sweat poured down our faces and our arms.
We stopped, breathless, giddy and laughing. Magically, my mother had become twenty years younger. In that instant, she became my buddy. She still is. And we still dance.